Let me start my first post with letting you know, I am not a writer! I have a lot of thoughts about my journey and have had several people ask how I got started with this life style: so this is my journey by an amateur.
Well I started this journey officially in November 2014, however it took years to get to that point! I have always been a very sexual person. I enjoy sex and all things that go along with it. I have never viewed sex as an intimate act, but more of a pleasurable thing that I very much enjoyed. I have been married for 8 wonderful years now and most of those years our sex life has been fantastic. We, like all relationships have our ups and downs with our sex life, but for the most part we have always been open to trying new things and keeping things interesting. A few years ago we started discussing the possibility of a threesome, we joined a few websites and even made one date. I still remember how nervous I was about that date, so much so that I backed out. We both decided at that point that we were crazy and we should leave the whole idea behind us. I remember having conversations about how I always wanted to have two men at once and how much my husband would like to see me take another man. We always loved the idea when we were horny and worked up but when we woke up the next morning or after sex the idea became big and scary. Well time passed and we talked about it in passing but never joined any sites or made any decisions to move forward with it. I don't remember exactly what changed last October, but the talk had become hot and heavy again and we joined a site again. This time I was more involved with the conversations and managing the profile. We both had access to the profile to view and send messages, but all replies had to be sent from me. Before my husband would do the talking and I wasn't that interested in setting anything up, including talking to the men. I wanted to come home to a man at my house and get busy! We both agreed for this to actually work I needed to be the one to pick the men out and set everything up. I was so nervous, all I could think about it what if the people at work find out, what if I get an STD, what if my marriage falls apart, what if one of us is jealous. Despite my concerns I decided it was time to get real and take my fantasies into my own hands!
We decided on rules:
1. Both my husband and I should be present at all times. Mostly for safety but also to avoid jealousy.
2. Safety first! Always use protection and if at anytime one of us feels uncomfortable the whole thing stops no questions asked.
3. Both of us agree on a man to join us.
4. If any jealousy arises at anytime the whole thing stops and we never go back!
Once we had our rules in place I started "shopping"! I wanted a well endowed man, clean cut, well maintained, and within my age range. Well in Southern Illinois wow the options were limited, but I started chatting on the website we were using and as conversation moved on we moved to an instant messenger application. Every day when I got home from work my husband would take my phone and read all of the messages from that day. I know it sounds possessive but he wanted to be involved with the process and he encouraged me to talk more and set up a date with the guy I was talking to. I can remember being excited every time my phone went off with a new message. I would think to my self, wow someone else actually wants to sleep with me! (Keep in mind, I've been with my husband for 12 years and before that only had 2 other men)
